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Welcome to The More than
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Just a Doctor Podcast.
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I’m your host,
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Lil Surprenant MD.
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I’m a life coach
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for physicians,
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a practicing
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hospitalist, a wife,
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a mom of two boys,
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a reader, a dancer,
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a dolphin enthusiast,
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and all the things
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just like me.
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You’re
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more than just a doctor.
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And that’s what we’re
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going to talk
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about each week.
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Doctor stuff
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regular life stuff
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and all the things
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that make life
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rich and interesting.
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I’m so glad you’re here.
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Let’s get started.
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Hello, friends.
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Thank you
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for joining me today
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for episode number
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22 of
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More Than Just a Doctor.
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I'm your host,
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Lil Surprenant.
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And this is going to
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be another short
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and sweet episode.
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And today
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I'm talking about
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watching your language.
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I am not talking about
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watching those F-bombs,
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because if you'll listen,
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you know, I like an F-bomb.
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In fact,
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I was telling
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one of my partners
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at work on Monday
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that if you want to
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sell a book to me,
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you put the word
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fuck in the title
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and I'm
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pretty much
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guaranteed to buy it.
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So
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this is not about watching
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the four letter words.
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This episode
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is about watching
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the language you use
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and particularly
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around work.
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So some of the language
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that we use in medicine
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I think is very helpful
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to some people,
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is very engaging,
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very inspiring,
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and to others of us
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it's off putting
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nails on a chalkboard,
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puking.
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This is me.
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So what inspired
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this episode today is
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this is
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last week.
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I said in my podcast
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that I hate the word journey
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when you were talking
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about like
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a weight loss journey,
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journey to health
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or whatever, journey
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in that way, I hate it.
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And my friend Beth today
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texted me and was like,
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Thank you
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for also hating Journey.
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So it reminded me
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of how important
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language is, the language
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we use and the language
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sometimes that we
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surround ourselves with
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or that we're surrounded by
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can not jibe with us
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and we don't have to use it.
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So the language that we use
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for ourselves
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is the most important thing
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we have in crafting
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the experience
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we have of life
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or moving through.
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And by that I mean
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you going through your day
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at the hospital,
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same patients,
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the same pages, the same
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pace.
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The day can feel
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very different
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depending on
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how you talk to yourself
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about it.
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So
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thinking about
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specifically
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about the language
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of medicine,
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I know that for some people
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the inspirational
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language of calling
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patients
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always come first
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team.
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All of this
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sort of like
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flowery, flowery
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language of helping.
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Some people
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find that inspiring.
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I find that
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I really hate
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that sort of language.
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I really personally
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don't like a lot of
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to me, that sort of sappy
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and if you want me to
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get disgruntled, you know,
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you call me like
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one of the
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more popular phrases
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now is like,
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have a service heart.
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Okay, I fucking hate that.
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I think
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I might have
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a service heart.
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I don't know.
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I really don't think so.
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But I want to call it that.
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If you call it
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that makes me
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not want to do it.
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It's funny.
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The same language
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for medicine.
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It also gets like
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plopped on to life
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coaching and
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all the sort of, quote,
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helping industries.
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And I actually hate
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it for coaching too. So
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and that's fine.
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Like it can be good for you
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and bad for me.
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But what I want to
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offer for you
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is if you don't like
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the language
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that you're hearing
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about your work,
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you get to change it.
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So I want to offer
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some of the alternatives.
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So for me,
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I like to think about work
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as specifically,
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like work at the hospital
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or doctor work.
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I do much better
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if I think of it
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in sort of practical or
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muscular is a word I use.
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I like that
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comes to mind for me.
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Like, I like to think
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sometimes.
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I like to think.
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And this is work
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that needs to be done.
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So it may as well
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be done by me.
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Like I find that helpful
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and not treacly,
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you know that overly sweet.
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This is muscular work.
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This is necessary work.
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Those are the
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kinds of things
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and the flavor of
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of language
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that I like to use.
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You definitely
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may have a whole
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nother flavor.
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You can have like a fun
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narrative
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or an interesting narrative.
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Like, I also like
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really more for
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other types of work,
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like creative work.
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I love the language I love.
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Interesting.
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Like that's a word
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that resonates with me.
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I really like
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to be interested, engaged.
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So to call something
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interesting work
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or an interesting
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problem is helpful for me.
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So that might be helpful
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for you.
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Practical is a word
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I love around work.
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Like I love to
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think of myself
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as a practical person,
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pragmatic.
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I love to think of myself
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as a a practical doctor.
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I think of
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the work I do
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as a hospitalist.
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I feel like my number
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one job is
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to answer the question
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what is wrong
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and what to do about it.
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Which I consider
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like very practical,
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pragmatic language
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and sort of has that like
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everyday
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undertone that I respond to.
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So what I'm
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what I'm going to invite you
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all to do
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is just notice the language
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you have about work
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and what feels good to you,
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what feels annoying
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and just it's all optional.
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Just because on the wall,
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you know,
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when you come
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in the hospital, it says,
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our hearts and minds are,
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you know, whatever,
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exploding with joy
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to take care of your
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ischemic foot.
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Like just because it says
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that on the door
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doesn't mean
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you have to
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parrot that language.
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And more importantly,
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you don't have to feel bad
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if that language
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doesn't resonate with you.
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So just
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notice what is the language
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that's around you?
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Do you like it?
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If you like it,
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use more of it.
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Like use it on purpose.
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Use that language
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to inspire you
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to make the day
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feel more
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meaningful, engaging.
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But if it's not,
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find your own language
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and use that.
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So I'd be so curious.
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So text me.
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Email me.
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Come up to me
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at the hospital
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if you have words
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language around work
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that you really hate
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to hear,
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most people have
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a pet peeve,
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or if you have language
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that you really love
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to hear.
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I would also love to hear
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if you totally
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disagree with me
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and you love the
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inspirational language
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because really, really
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to each his own.
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All right.
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That is what I have for you
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this week.
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Pretty short and sweet.
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So I will see
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you guys next week. Bye.
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Thanks so much for
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joining me today.
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